"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterward" - Benjamin Franklin
The scenarios around marriage, weddings and being a bride can be a very stressful experience. We often wonder what happened when a loving, caring couple, suddenly become growling, angry beasts as the preparations and stresses of a wedding day approaches. No matter where you come from in our global village, there are rituals and rites that must be observed for anyone getting married. Some come with huge price-tags whilst others are choreographed within an inch of the groom and bride's lives... all add to mounting stress even for such a happy event.
As I thought about Redhead Riter's prompt for this week, I couldn't help but imagine how complicated the bridal process and wedding arrangements are around the world. I also couldn't help but wonder about those bridezillas we watch on TV. How the heck did they get that way? Is being on TV that important that normal, decent people are willing to wreck their reputation and behave like monsters?
I dont know...
The question for this week's Tell The Truth Thursday is:
Did you have a wonderful wedding day? Would you change anything? If you're not married, describe your ideal wedding day.
Honestly, the more I thought about the whole affair of what it takes to get to a wedding and say the "I Do's", the more fascinated I became about the ways they are celebrated and cherished elsewhere. What are the steps leading up to the wedding in your cultural background? What about your family tradition around weddings and gowns? I'd love to hear from you. Meanwhile, I added a few pictures above and below to show a range of brides in their regalia; each more fabulously clad than the other.
In terms of my wedding, it was sweet, fun and uneventful. Uneventful in the sense that there was no drama. I was married on a fall day at a club in one of the boroughs. I didn't wear the traditional wedding gown because I wanted to be me and wear something that made me happy. I wore an ivory silk chamois long fitted skirt and flowy blouse with raglan sleeves and over my silk top, I wore a beige Chanel bouclé jacket. A string of pearls completed my look and the New York Times gave us a Wedding Announcement write up with a glossy modeling picture of me that they thankfully no longer show online.
My dearest friend, Diahann, designed and made my outfit and also did all the flower arrangements. My family flew in from around the world and we had a lovely time with friends and family around us. I gave chocolates and miniature signed books as favors and we spent our wedding evening at the Waldorf Astoria hotel; friends stopped by and joined us in a champagne celebration after the wedding. Fourteen months later, our twins were born and fourteen years later or so, our marriage went kaput.
I have no regrets about my wedding day and wouldn't change a thing. We were very level headed about the plans, preparations and actual event that I cannot wrap my head around the hysteria people experience over their weddings. Sure, there were last minute jitters but everything else was clockwork and a collaborative effort. We remain best of friends today and we love our children without reservations.
Like Cinderella's carriage, we don't want our fantasy to turn into a pumpkin after a fab affair, therefore, managing the expenses of a wedding is important. So, when I think about my fellow brides who take out loans to spend huge amounts on a wedding day, including a gown they wear once, I can't relate. It's one thing if they have a fabulous time and the memories are passed down to kids and grand-kids who get the gown, but this isn't often the case in today's world of bridezillas today, gonezillas tomorrow.
What are your thoughts? What kind of extravaganza did you have at your wedding? If not, why not?
Photo of African Brides Himba & Masai via Celayir Sirman
Photo of Bride in white gown via What's Up Mag
Photo of African Brides Djibouti & Berber via Celayir Sirman
Photo of African Brides Karo & Swahili via Celayir Sirman
Photo of Pumpkins via Honeymoon about.com
Until Next Time…
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