Kismet means fate/destiny. Some believe fate is predetermined, others believe that we have a measure of freewill, and there are those souls amongst us who see it as one serendipitous event after another with periodic hurricanes thrown in to keep us humble. Regardless of what we believe, one thing is certain: our attitude accompanies us on every path we travel and serves as judge and jury to our actions; we must choose wisely.
As humans, do we have negative and positive thoughts? Sure do.
Do we have a choice which way our thoughts/actions go? Yes.
Do our thoughts influence our actions/attitude? You bet.
Does it take great courage to focus on developing a positive attitude? Yep
If we could focus on a preferred way of thinking and acting, which would we choose?
The point is that some associate positive anything with the airy fairy, la-di-da, delude yourself about life set. Having a positive perspective is about courageous, logical, common sense actions that empower and uplift us and others around us – we are powerful beings in a challenged world. Imagine if
Edison believed that we were destined to spend the rest of our lives living by candles and oil lamps instead of the bright lights we enjoy in our homes today? Darkness doesn’t have to be a permanent state or condition.
"Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same." Francesca Reigler
An Anecdote:When I was in graduate school, there was/we had a beloved and highly regarded Professor of Clinical Psychology; we'll call him Prof Zee here. Prof Zee's classes were always packed to the rafters as he had a reputation for being a compassionate and attentive teacher. He was skilled at distilling complex theories and equations into clear and understandable language and even students from other departments wanted to take his fundamentals course.As life would have it, Prof Zee announced at the beginning of one academic year that he planned to retire and move away from New York. There was a scramble to register for his final semester class and those of us who were fortunate enough to attend that final course were forever blessed by the wisdom and skill of a master teacher.On the first day of class he advised us to "stop worrying about failure or success and focus on being present and engaged." We were. Throughout the course, he engaged and challenged us with individual and group assignments. For our final exams, he gave us both a take home and in-class exam. We came to our last class both exhilarated and saddened. Prof Zee had something up his sleeve. He gave back the exams and instructed us to spend a few minutes reflecting on our efforts throughout the semester. Then he said, "I want you to write the final cumulative grade you know you deserve on your exam sheet and give it back to me." We did and quickly handed our papers back.Prof Zee then led us in a riveting discussion of how our beliefs, attitudes, and training shape our choices and decisions. What were other internal/external predictors? He called on a range of people to ask why they gave themselves a low/high grade. The answers were revelatory and ran the gamut; I earned it, I didn't deserve it, I shoulda-coulda-woulda, I know my stuff and on. There was discussion on the impact expectations and a positive attitude has on our sense of self worth and value. In the end, we agreed that a healthy self-image, a positive mental attitude gives us more "A+" Days. To make us remember this, he gave us the final grade we wrote down .... we deserved it!
Life is filled with blessings and burdens and the difference between those who thrive and those who don’t speaks volumes about our attitude; a positive attitude is critical to how we respond to events in our lives.
A positive attitude doesn’t mean ignoring our responsibilities, pretending that our struggles no longer exist, never having a bad hair day or running off to some undefined nirvana; it’s really about how we choose to respond to situations that we experience in our daily lives.
The last couple of years have been very difficult for many families. People lost jobs, homes, health insurance, businesses and loved ones. The bigger challenge for many has been finding the strength within, God’s grace, and the can-do attitude to pull back from the brink. In times like now, a positive attitude is like a much needed hug; a way to remind ourselves that everything will change for the better. We will prevail. We will be okay. Unequivocally!
Through all the hardships there have been remarkable comebacks, redemptions, and successes as many have found a new path, a new way of living and a simplifying of lifestyles. I’m sure we could all think of someone we know who fits the bill. Identify them here so we can applaud their courageous spirit. I have a list and will add a few at the end. If you are searching for work, Here’s a list of top 10 companies hiring again. Go for it!.
A universal healing is in order as there are still so many people hurting in the world and we can be part of that healing process by our positive attitude of goodwill, gratitude, graceful action and awareness of our own kismet and how goodness reverberates.Do I have all the answers? No. What are your thoughts? I would love to hear from you: Your comments are always appreciated. Thank You!
My Courage Awards go to: NY's Finest & Bravest, W. Mitchell, Esmeralda WN, Penny, Susan, Edna, Tess, Deana, Alison R, Displaced Women, Refugees, 9/11 Families and all globally who struggle against oppression and abject poverty. (The order is random).
Until Next Time…
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